75- The 24 hour rule

Following a passionate disagreement, it’s often hard to separate fact from feeling. Our desire to be right interferes with our ability to think objectively.

Those with a confrontational personality will feel an urgency to react, while those who are avoidant will try to move on and disregard the conversation.

Neither strategy helps us to gain clarity. Like a glass of water filled with tiny particles, constantly re-engaging prevents us from gaining clarity, and never looking again keeps us from seeing what was there.

A better approach is to give emotions enough time to settle, but not so much time that we forget about the context and conversation.

When in doubt, give it 24 hours. No more, no less.

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