Posts Tagged ‘rejection’

281- Worthy or Unworthy?

A recent #rejection startled me with a feeling I hadn’t felt in a long time.

It was a cocktail of emotions that I struggled to parse through. A mixture of disappointment, disempowerment, and doubt – which was particularly surprising because the magnitude of the feelings were disproportional to the object of desire.

What followed was even more interesting to observe – a general state of lethargy with an attitude of surrender and a significantly diminished sense of hope and possibility.

It made me realize how lucky and privileged I’ve been not to encounter this feeling very often in my adult life: A sense of unworthiness.

Without the feeling of self-worth, it’s impossible to ask others for help, speak up, take risks, reach for your dreams, and to be yourself.

It’s a fundamental ingredient to living in a world of what could be, rather than being trapped by what should be.

Thankfully, it’s something we can all work through once we recognize it within ourselves.

184- Alignment vs. Incompatibility

If you walk into a store to try on a pair of pants that don’t quite fit – it’s neither the pants’ fault nor your body’s.

At that very moment, it’s simply the wrong pair of pants for you and the right pair of pants for someone else. Nothing was rejected; they simply weren’t compatible.

Whether in dating, job applications, or business partnerships – #incompatibility can sometimes feel like #rejection. In those moments, it’s important to remember that the goal isn’t acceptance – it’s #alignment.

After all, there’s no point in walking away with a pair of pants that don’t fit.

Ht: Conversation with Alisa Tantraphol

147- Rejection milestones

Today, my friend celebrated his first grant #rejection of 2021.

His celebration was neither ironic nor bittersweet but sincere and genuine. Not because Rejection was his desired outcome, but because he recognizes that Rejection is a milestone towards his long-term career #success . So much so that his goal for 2022 is to be rejected 100 times.

Aspiring to fail forward removes our ego from the #decision -making process. It gives us permission to participate in projects we believe we’re not worthy of while also increasing the potential for serendipity and opportunity.

Imagine how much more we could do with our lives if every Rejection were an opportunity for celebration, every failed attempt a badge of honor to show off to our friends, every piece of criticism a testimonial towards our #potential for progress.

It is more effective for us to seek a hundred failures than limit ourselves to a few guaranteed successes.