Posts Tagged ‘curiosity’

1/365 – ” What is one thing you’re seeking right now? “

1/365 – ” What is one thing you’re seeking right now? ”

When I asked this question at dinner last night, a new friend answered that he was looking for more Ingenuity over Curiosity.

#Ingenuity, to him, was #Curiosity with a purpose. He didn’t just want to learn; he wanted to find new, clever and original solutions to the various struggles the world was facing.

Ingenuity requires both breadth and depth of knowledge and a keen interest in problem-solving.

I love the idea of inviting more ingenuity into my life too. What would your answer be?

140- Design De-escalation

When it comes to avoiding #conflict with strangers, a simple #strategy is to be curious. It’s tough to stay mad at someone when you’re curious about them. Even better, if you can hold onto that sense of #curiosity for long enough, life will naturally send you in opposite directions making conflict impossible.

But avoiding conflict with friends, partners and family can be more challenging. Trauma, triggers, and accumulated resentment can blindside us, especially when we find ourselves in relationships when we feel safe.

We stand our ground more, push back a little harder, and both sides develop the expectation for the other to “know better.”

But recurring conflict is detrimental for relationships. The key is to develop processes and methodologies that empower both parties to de-escalate so that conversation can continue.

After all, ending a conflict is not the same as resolving one.