Posts Tagged ‘boundaries’

127- Giving and Reciprocity

As a giver, I get a lot of joy from supporting others.

I love being able to predictively and adaptively support those I care about, especially in environments where that kind of support is scarce.

But when the attentiveness isn’t reciprocated, I eventually become resentful.

Like water eroding the soil around a foundation, the expectation of #reciprocity begins to create wear and tear on friendships and relationships.

For those of us who instigate #Giving into our relationships, we also have a responsibility to create and communicate our boundaries so others can respect them.

It’s hard for others to respect our #boundaries if we don’t take the time to think about what those are.

124- Observing failure

It’s always hard to be the first to #volunteer in a group setting.

Standing up in front of a crowd of people, not knowing what will happen next, puts you in a very vulnerable setting.

Even if we’re in a “safe space,” an environment where you can engage in conversation and be free from judgment or harm, the feeling of potential failure never entirely disappears.

But #failure in a #safe space is not a bad thing. Watching others fail while being supported is empowering and gives viewers the courage and permission to try something they might not initially have had the confidence to try out alone.

Two main takeaways:
– Find spaces where you can safely watch others fail and try to push your #boundaries .
– If you feel safe, volunteer and be the first to fail. It’ll help empower the others in your group.