Constructive criticism is one of my love languages.

Unfortunately for me, it’s less popular than its more commonplace cousin: Words of Affirmation.

Unsolicited – words of affirmation are almost always more welcome than constructive criticism. Even when inaccurate, it’s nicer to receive compliments over critiques.

However, in both cases, we’ll always be most moved by the words that make us feel seen and heard.

Getting better at listening, reflecting, and kindly refracting thoughts back onto those we care about is the key to connecting, regardless of the love language we speak.