As human beings, we have a tendency to adopt certain behaviors – simply because everyone else is doing it.

Our desire to fit in creates a bandwagon effect – which drives us to be biased toward a “why not?” attitude.

This can be a good thing in some situations – pushing us to explore the edges of our comfort zone – but other times, the invisible pressure to be a part of the tribe can erode personal boundaries essential to our long-term well-being.

An interesting experiment is to occasionally flip our mindset from a “default to yes,” to one where we “default to no” and see how it affects our experience.

Do we feel better or worse? Included or excluded? More satisfied or less?